Yesterday, I was out with my oldest daughter. We had a good time together shopping for crafty things. I mentioned what I read in someone’s blog about how Christians want to “fix” other people. She then told me how mad it has made her through the years when I have tried to “fix” her.
“Remember when I told you I don’t read the Bible and you wrote me a letter?”
I said, “Yes.”
“Well that upset me. I just delete things you write me about religion. You have your relationship with God your way and I have my relationship my way.”
I felt really bad and told her I was sorry. I told her I was always terrified she wouldn’t be saved and I knew that faith comes by hearing the Word of God.
I could tell that didn’t help. She is still angry about the times I’ve talked with her about being a Christian. She is one now, and has a ton of faith in God. More than I do, in fact.
So, as I wrote in my previous post, fear again was moving me to do what was wrong. I have seen the Holy Spirit working with her without any of my help.
Now comes the part where I am confused about living the Christian life. When we want to bring someone to Christ, what should we say? What should we do?
In his blog, “Pastor Unikely,” Thomas writes,
“What if we tried to first bless people rather than only trying to fix them? Would our lives and actions look different?”
In a different slant, Anthony Baker wrote in his blog, “The Recovering Legalist,”
“…our attempts to convey a point without offending do nothing more than muddy the cleansing water, smudge the reflective properties of God’s Word, and lessen the needed blow to our hardened consciences.” Anthony Baker
I look at Jesus and how he shared his good news. He preached; he told us what righteousness was and what sin was. Some followed him, some tried to throw him off a cliff or stone him. He healed people; the people he healed loved him; the church leaders hated him for it and plotted to kill him.
The times Jesus rebuked the Pharisees and Saducees, he used plain language and warned them they were heading towards hell. He told them they had no love for God in themselves. He pointed out their sins.
When anyone asked Jesus a question, they got the straight truth – no trying to sugar-coat anything. I wonder how popular he would be today? I think we would kill him again.
My husband believes only those who are called as prophets and ministers should point out sin or mistakes in others. Maybe he is right – I don’t know.
Paul wrote, “Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives.” 1 Peter 3:1
I know it is the Holy Spirit who has to convict people of sin and their need of God. Maybe he doesn’t need anyone’s help at all in this except from prophets and ministers. We can just show the love of God and show complete acceptance to people, knowing it is God who will change them into His image. Does this seem the right way to you? I would really like some opinions.